Memento mori (Latin: "remember (that you have)
to die")
the
medieval Latin theory and practice of reflection on mortality, especially as a
means of considering the vanity of earthly life and the transient nature of all
earthly goods and pursuits.
Malcolm was an exceptional being – in his independent thinking and lifestyle,
his razor intellect, his deep and innate humility, the breadth of his talents
and interests, and especially in the gentleness, peace and genuine love that
characterised him.
My earliest
memories of Malcolm are of a handsome, vigorous, carefree jock. He went to school in St Vincent, then in St
Lucia, and after to Cirencester College in England. He played cricket, football and tennis; drank,
hunted, and partied. He loved Elvis and
Willie Nelson and Johnny Cash, knew all the words, and was the worst singer in
a family of bad singers. He never took
himself seriously, was never unkind or ungenerous, and asked little of the
world.
He married the lovely Geraldine Salmon who came to St Vincent from England with her parents when her father took a job as district doctor. They had two children: Rocky on February 05, 1966 and Rachel on February 19, 1968. On November 04 1986, Michelle Zenique was born to Malcolm and Sharon.
As I remember it, during an extended stay in the UK in the mid 70s, Malcolm pursued an interest in Eastern religions and philosophies, and subsequently moved into another way of life. His marriage to Geraldine ended, although I believe their fondness for each other endured.
Malcolm built a marvelous hut in the mountains at Copay Marrow, complete with generator and bathtub. Years later he built a less elaborate hut at Queensbury, and his last domicile was in the ‘skyscraper’ (pictured in the previous post) in the grounds of Rachael’s home, site of Malcolm and Geraldine’s original homestead.
Our brother contained multitudes. He was happy alone in the mountains, and happy interacting with a broad spectrum of people – young, old, rich, poor, educated or not, his sympathetic manner drew people to him and he embraced them with keen interest and little judgement. For many years he alternately caroused and retreated. His philosophies grew more esoteric and eluded many of us, but his essential beauty and grace kept us close. He wanted little, lacked any possessiveness or acquisitiveness, and kept things as simple as possible. I think he managed to do what so few of us ever do, he lived his life in harmony with his beliefs and inclinations, and he was beloved on the earth. Malcolm’s legend will outlive us all.
A world without Malcolm is a less bright world to contemplate, especially for his children whom he loved beyond measure. But our memory of him will be joyful.
Bless up!
In peace and
love.
Lisbie x
"When one’s dead, then one’s dead. This squirrel will become earth all in
his time. And later on still there’ll grow trees from him, with new squirrels
skipping about in them. Do you think that’s so very sad?"
Too-ticky, from the Moomin series by Tove Jansson
I read in this excerpt from the School of Life that Chinese culture is reverent towards the yinshi (recluse), someone who chooses to leave behind the busy political and commercial world and live more simply, usually up the side of a mountain – in a hut. The tradition begins in the 4th century AD, when a high-ranking government official named Tao Yuanming surrendered his position at court and moved to the countryside to farm the land, make wine, and write. In his poem, ‘On Drinking Wine’, he recounts the riches that poverty have brought him:
Plucking chrysanthemums from the eastern hedge
I gaze into the distance at the southern mountain.
The mountain air is refreshing at sunset
As the flocking birds are returning home.
In such things we find true meaning,
But when I try to explain, I can’t find the words.
"Our revels now are ended. These our actors,
As I foretold you, were all spirits and
Are melted into air, into thin air:
And, like the baseless fabric of this vision,
The cloud-capp'd towers, the gorgeous palaces,
The solemn temples, the great globe itself,
Ye all which it inherit, shall dissolve,
And, like this insubstantial pageant faded,
Leave not a rack behind. We are such stuff
As dreams are made on, and our little life
Is rounded with a sleep."
As I foretold you, were all spirits and
Are melted into air, into thin air:
And, like the baseless fabric of this vision,
The cloud-capp'd towers, the gorgeous palaces,
The solemn temples, the great globe itself,
Ye all which it inherit, shall dissolve,
And, like this insubstantial pageant faded,
Leave not a rack behind. We are such stuff
As dreams are made on, and our little life
Is rounded with a sleep."
I'd like to say thank you for posting this - Malcolm saved my life. And I wish I could have said this to him before he parted. But I left St Vincent and my wise old friend before I had that chance. I met him in on an evening in 2012/13 at the Bushbar. Him I chatted through the night, I skipped work the next day, and frankly speaking most days after that too, to sit first at the bar then in the tree-house and chat with him. My mind before that first conversation was going through a state of atrophy - a place as parochial as St Vincent can do that to a person. Because of Malcs I learnt about Wei wu Wei and Alan Watts. He challenged me to think, presented me with thought experiments that would keep me occupied for days, he taught me how to step out of my fiercely rational mind and to consider an alternative, non-intuitive perspective to problems. In so doing, he taught me how to focus and to control said mind - which up until then was particularly challenging. Again how counter-intuitive? I've never been the same since then and I am better for it. I can go on, but suffice to say that I'll never forget him. And once more, thank you for posting this. Bless
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